Sexless Marriage and Attachment Disorder?
I have been married for 4 years and together for a total of 10 years with my husband. I have been faithful to him and love him through it all. He has battled alcoholisim and drugs but had been clean and sober for 5 plus years now. I have supported his recovery and chosen to support him by not drinking either, even though I am not the partner with the addiction problems. I have stuck by his side through repeated rehab programs and even a bout of infidelity and I am living in a sexless marriage. I feel betrayed by his lack of sexual desire, especially when I have done so much for him. I feel so frustrated when I try and am shot down every time. We had a healthy sex life in the beginning, for many years then he just stopped wanting to have sex. I suppose I am a fool for thinking that it would all magically be better after our vows were exchanged. We probably have sex 10 times per year (on a good year)and those times are ususlly when I have asked so many times, he just does it to appease me. I am 32 years old and phycially fit. I live a very healthy lifestyle. I find myself staring in the mirror asking my self over and over, why doesnt he want me. I feel so embarassed to be living like this. I want to have a family and I love him but I just keep asking myself, how much resentment will I feel a year from now, 5 years from now. I have given up the best years of my youth to living a life of celabacy. I am sure that I have co-dependent issues of my own to deal with, but it doesnt make it any easier. I have been researching adult attachment disorder online and see many of the symptoms of his behavior. I am wondering if anyone else out there has any information on attachment disorders. It is comforting to know that there is a support group out here for people going through this. I have recently read the book, he's just not up for it anymore. That has been helpful somewhat.