Feeling Bad About Myself
We have been together for 17 years, married for 14. In the last 10 years we have had sex nine times, and ALL at my urging. He won't talk about it either, so I don't know why. I have gained weight, but the sex stopped when I was still thin. I have seriously considered going outside my marriage for sex, but I don't think that would make me feel any better about myself than I do now. He was always a little shy about sex, but I had no idea that a man could just stop wanting it. I have offered to go to counseling, dress up, try something new, anything to spice it up. He is not interested in fixing the problem. We have two children; one is from my previous marriage. We have a life together. So far it has not been something I am willing to divorce him over, but I cannot promise to feel that way forever. There was an 8 year stretch with no sex at all. I just don't get it. Now add to this that he has high blood pressure, diabetes, and is an alcoholic now. Geez how did this happen?