F'n Cat

We had a virtually verbalized understanding that she loved her dog more than me. And when the dog died the degree of my emotional support was not sufficient, that pretty much ended any chance of a happy marriage. Now her favorite cat is dying. I can't begin to describe how attached she is to this cat. She suffers from depression already and is going to crumble when he dies. We have been in separate beds and sexless for over two years. I cannot remember the last time we hugged, and we never talk about anything more than superficial necessities. It is going to be very tense and awkward when the cat dies.

don't blame the cat! they just soak up anything anyone is willing to give.



'course, you could start giving him attention yourself. cats aren't incredibly loyal, ya know.



vicarious scratchin'

My ex would hold the dog for hours and sleep with her in his arms. He barely touched me.

Yep. After oodles of cuddles for the family dog, he will even go to the spare bedroom and have her big behind jump right up there beside him, while I go to my big king sized bed, alone again.

We had this situation... with friends... he would put more effort in... but the most hurtful was with the CHILDREN

How do you cite love for a cat in divorce proceedings? "Irreconcilable differences" don't really seem to do it justice.

Yes. I found W gave more attention to complete strangers than to me.



I think this can happen because they put us in a nice cosy (and sexless) place in their minds labelled "Dad" or "Husband". Anything but lover or intimate.

What a f'ck!ng situation! You get no strokes? We have no cat but he goes to bed without saying good night because he fears that I will follow and ... want his attention.