PerspectivesLike everyone here, its been a while, and will probably be a while before we have sex. We get along. Unlike most here, we are affectionate, but that's as far as it goes. She is either tired, not feeling well or whatever excuse. I wouldnt say she is a refuser, but I've been known to be wrong.
Why am I writing? I would like some opinions on whether this situation is my fault.
Some background. Married for over 20 years, with two sons. We were very sexual before we were married and for the first few of marriage it was great. Like most newlyweds, we were adventurous and horny. About three years in that started to change. By the time the kids came along and were growing up, our sex life started to disappear. I tried very hard to keep things romantic and sexy, but eventually I found the rejection too hard to take. We settled into a comfortable routine, and had sex a couple of times a year, interespered with other things. That lack of passion has led to some fights and some thoughts of leaving, but it's comfortable for me too.
About me, I'm a man in every sense of that word but one. I work at a job I don't really like, but have to do because my family needs me to. I do some (probably not my full share) of the housework, and try to be attentive to her needs. I shop, do things with the kids, and cook my share of the meals. In other words, I'm Mr. Brady.
Now, here is the 'issue' I need opinions on: once in a while I like to be dressed in a cloth diaper. I don't use it. Don't call her Mommy. And try to keep it as discrete as possible. For me it is a real emotional comfort. She knew about my fetish before we were married, and didn't really have a problem with it. Over time it became an issue, and I even gave it up for a few years (we decided that that didn't work since we didn't have any more sex, and I was in a bad mood a lot). I don't combine this with sex, btw, but it does make me very cuddly.
I guess what I want to know is if you think she is justified in not having sex (although I would never combine the two things), or do you think it is about something else? I'm turning 45 this year, and I guess one of the things I would like to know is if I should stay in a relationship that will not fulfil my needs, or should I leave? Knowing that actually finding a woman who would be okay with my fetish is about one-in-a-million.
One last thing, if youre just going to make fun of me, save it, I'm not on here to be a punching bag.
Thanks for your thoughts