Looking At New PossibilitiesThe time is approaching for me to take my class. Everything is still in place. Hope to set up my little business after I get my certificate and start up in the fall. I have a couple of other things going as well, but I don't earn enough to kick my husband out. Too bad.
Though he will go. My son and I talked. He understands daddy is going to walk, but it's just a matter of when. He understands we need at least a year more of status quo, with dad as breadwinner.
As for hubby's displays of emotional weakness and assholeness, I have tried to convey to my kid that some people aren't strong. They fall apart or blow up when they can't handle what life gives them. He seems to understand. He has what relationship he can with his dad. I don't badmouth his father, just try to fr
So I've been looking online at some interesting things. Supportive living programs for persons with mental illness, for one thing. No, not for my DH (dumb husband), but for my son when he is an adult. If he recieved some assistance with keeping up with medications, housekeeping chores, organizaing, getting to work, etc., he could live a full life. Found examples of several programs. These require referrals from state/county depts of mental health. That's the kicker. A staffer at one such program emailed me all about it. I suppose when my kid finishes his education, I'lll try to get him into the least restrictive housing program we can. If he doesn't qualify, we'll go from state to state and keep trying.
since we'll be much poorer with divorce. Could that be an advantage? To get him into a program? Maybe!
Then there is the matter of myself. If I can get my son into a supportive housing program, what do I want to do?
First, I'll be earning a living as best I can and we'll be living rather hand to mouth. I see myself shedding possessions in order to keep afloat--selling out to the bare walls. Fine.
What can one do to take advantage?
If my son is safely in a program, perhaps I could live a long lost dream and move abroad for a while.
Always wanted to live in Paris.
Of course I write anyway, but wouldn't it be fun to retire there for a while?
Have not lost the desire to adopt a daughter (older child, perhaps a teen) once I'm single. Wondering how that would mesh with retiring in France?
Anyway, thought I would put Paris on the big board and let it ride. Read several articles about how Paris can be a great retirement destination for frugal middle class retirees who don't mind a small apartment out of the city center (I stayed in a nice suburb as a college student) and simply want to enjoy the cultural life. I can live on the cheap anywhere.
So, once I have all those ducks in a row, could there be a couple of years in France? Why the hell not?
sterlingrose 46-50, F 2 Responses 0 Jul 12, 2012