Looking At New Possibilities

The time is approaching for me to take my class. Everything is still in place. Hope to set up my little business after I get my certificate and start up in the fall. I have a couple of other things going as well, but I don't earn enough to kick my husband out. Too bad.
Though he will go. My son and I talked. He understands daddy is going to walk, but it's just a matter of when. He understands we need at least a year more of status quo, with dad as breadwinner.
As for hubby's displays of emotional weakness and assholeness, I have tried to convey to my kid that some people aren't strong. They fall apart or blow up when they can't handle what life gives them. He seems to understand. He has what relationship he can with his dad. I don't badmouth his father, just try to frame his weaknesses and sad choices in a simple and direct way.
So I've been looking online at some interesting things. Supportive living programs for persons with mental illness, for one thing. No, not for my DH (dumb husband), but for my son when he is an adult. If he recieved some assistance with keeping up with medications, housekeeping chores, organizaing, getting to work, etc., he could live a full life. Found examples of several programs. These require referrals from state/county depts of mental health. That's the kicker. A staffer at one such program emailed me all about it. I suppose when my kid finishes his education, I'lll try to get him into the least restrictive housing program we can. If he doesn't qualify, we'll go from state to state and keep trying.
since we'll be much poorer with divorce. Could that be an advantage? To get him into a program? Maybe!
Then there is the matter of myself. If I can get my son into a supportive housing program, what do I want to do?
First, I'll be earning a living as best I can and we'll be living rather hand to mouth. I see myself shedding possessions in order to keep afloat--selling out to the bare walls. Fine.
What can one do to take advantage?
If my son is safely in a program, perhaps I could live a long lost dream and move abroad for a while.
Always wanted to live in Paris.
And write.
Of course I write anyway, but wouldn't it be fun to retire there for a while?
Have not lost the desire to adopt a daughter (older child, perhaps a teen) once I'm single. Wondering how that would mesh with retiring in France?

Anyway, thought I would put Paris on the big board and let it ride. Read several articles about how Paris can be a great retirement destination for frugal middle class retirees who don't mind a small apartment out of the city center (I stayed in a nice suburb as a college student) and simply want to enjoy the cultural life. I can live on the cheap anywhere.

So, once I have all those ducks in a row, could there be a couple of years in France? Why the hell not?
sterlingrose sterlingrose
46-50, F
2 Responses Jul 12, 2012

Our off shore waters are festooned with boat loads of refugees clamouring for political asylum at the moment FOIA - according to talkback radio and the tabloids it is as big a sea borne invasion as the Normandy landings. With the cry going up to halt this threat to our way of life. (Never mind that 95% of people in this country without visa's came by aeroplane and simple melted into society). Wouldn't have anything to do with the fact that they look a bit different, or practise a different faith system would it ??<br />
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Anyway, 'sterlingrose', you could do worse. Just fly in though. Forget the boat, or straight into detention you will go.<br />
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Tread your own path.

I hate to throw a spanner in the wassit but as you land at Charles de Gaulle you may be puzzled by the exodus of French natives, all their essential belongings in one suitcase, in a frenzy to get out, possibly wanting to go from whence you came. Did you know that the new top rate of income tax in France is about to go up to 75%? Shall I repeat that? Not that that would affect you dossing down in your little bijou, in-the-roof garret, somewhere in Pigalle or more likely in one of the concrete banlieus along with the rest of the poor immigrants. :-)<br />
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Just sayin'.<br />
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PS. Apparently there are an awful lot of Greeks looking to become proficient in German overnight at the moment. It's the sad and inevitable way of the world at present. Australia and the New World is supposedly where it is fashionable to exit to at the moment because they didn't permit their banks to do silly things but they can afford to be awful picky these days.