Enjoying The MomentIt's now some days after I decided enough was enough with my sexless marriage. Husband is away - have heard nothing from him for days now. No contact. I expect when he comes out of the desert he will be back in touch with us again. In the meantime, discretely, I have been investigating the legal position - oh, and, for the first time ever in my life, have experienced what it is to make love properly to another person who wants and desires you intensely, cannot keep away from you, wants to touch you all over all the time, sends flirty, funny and downright dirty texts, and wants to make love for 5 or 6 hours at a time. He is also in a dead and sexless marriage. Just want to remind everyone out there that there is NOTHING that feels better than the physical and emotional part of love-making - let's not just call it sex. It is magical and transformative, spontaneous and celebratory, at the very essence of what it means to be a human being. Nakedness and kissing and no holds barred anywhere. I have spent so much of my life not having this wonderful life-affirming gift. Finally at the age of 53 I discover what it is all about - and I am never going back to what has laughably passed as my married sex life in which I'm not allowed to take my clothes off or do oral sex or touch chest or nipples.
I now really do believe what I have read here - that there are sex people and people who are not into sex. The sex people are tactile, spontaneous, passionate, willing to lose themselves in another person. The non-sex people are surrounded by inhibitions and barriers to bodily contact. They set limits and conditions. Maybe it is hard to find this out before you get married, but in my case I saw the warning signs with my husband - but at that time knew no better. I don't think the problem ever improves over the years.