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I Live In a Sexless Marriage

Attraction- What Happens When It Fades

By: antonoli42003
Written on July 21st, 2012
Attraction...what happens when that attraction a person once had fades away?
By: antonoli42003
Age: 36-40 , Male
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  • genguy
    genguy

    When the recipe for a relationship is LOST...Ain't no getting it back... YOU know what's missing....

    Jul 22, 2012
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  • morningteatime
    morningteatime

    If you were truly attracted to one another, it can come back with both parties focused on it. But one person alone cannot engender attraction if the other is unwilling.



    If you don't have it...the sexual part of the relationship will end. It's inevitable. But you already knew the answer to this as it's a rhetorical question...

    Jul 22, 2012
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  • mvcmvc
    mvcmvc

    Taken into context with your other stories, you already know the answer.



    Now, what is your plan to get to living a higher quality of life?

    Jul 21, 2012
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    • enna30
      enna30

      Great comment mvc. I've now checked out the back stories and I agree TOTALLY with mvc. It is time for YOU to do something to fix YOUR life - instead of "wishin' and a hopin' " that your WIFE will do something!

      Jul 21, 2012
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  • enna30
    enna30

    Your story is very short on details. I agree with VB that it is a "hostile, punishing, extremely unloving statement " - but that is because I am asuming there is basically nothing WRONG with you! If you seriously neglect your hygiene, or treat your wife badly or hav any other truly serious issue going on, my sympathy lies with your wife!!



    Perhaps you would care to share more of your story so we can offer helpful and supportive comments? And do read widely on this forum. It will help you better understand what you are facing.

    Jul 21, 2012
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    • kim1944
      kim1944

      Yes yes yes! It may be a hostile statement but it is an honest one so the next question is where to go from here. if one doesn't maintain a reasonable appearance or treats their partner poorly they can hardly expect said partner to want to have sex with them. The responses to your questions will then answer the question of if there's anything he can do to get it back with his wife, assuming it was ever there. Some women will marry men they are not that attracted to for other reasons, such as stability. Sucks but it's how a lot of women are raised.

      Jul 22, 2012
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  • paxetlux
    paxetlux

    It turns rank and rancid. You throw it out in the bin. Short of a miracle. I don't believe in miracles, even when others declare them. There is always an explanation even if it withheld or not understood. Sorry. Her, you, who knows.

    Jul 21, 2012
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  • antonoli42003
    antonoli42003

    My wife told me today that she does not find me attractive at all....

    Jul 21, 2012
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    • Nodifferent
      Nodifferent

      This a true statement, and she has laid down a 'line in the sand' you are now at the SM junction point- 1. Live with it. 2. Leave 3. Stay but 'outsource' it seems that the option to 'fix it' is gone.

      Jul 21, 2012
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    • rainyraven
      rainyraven

      I agree with No different.. sounds like live with it or leave would be my personal choice to leave.. if she has not even a little attraction for you then there is something deeply going on there and she's already done.. at least in my own personal experience if a girl says something like that.. she's just waiting for you to pack your bags sorry man hopefully I'm wrong

      Jul 21, 2012
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  • flyingstone
    flyingstone

    You must look at the person in a new loving light--if your being pushed away then maybe you are with a person that cannot creatively see you in a new light. They cannot appreciate what you give them and begin to go into their own world. If that is the case and they do not want to try then they just do not love you and it is best to get away as fast as you can.

    Jul 21, 2012
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