Well, that was fast. It's over. He's getting a one way ticket to his family in CA, leaving in a couple days. He said: "I know what you want. I get it. I just don't know if I can give it to you."

**** THAT. Is there really anything else to say?

I just put my wedding ring in a drawer. As far as I'm concerned, I'm officially single. And there's someone I really want to be with, who wants me like...WOW...the way I need and deserve. As soon as it's possible (he lives in another city), I'm SO GOING FOR IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you all for your support and help and advice. Being in this place and hearing your stories has helped me so much, it's indescribable.

nyartgal nyartgal
36-40, F
6 Responses Jul 22, 2012

He made the decision for you. <br />
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Just remember that all relationships eventually require hard work, if they are to last for more than 10 years or so. Good luck to you.

Exactly. I could field grounders for years and never even play little league-level shortstop. I could do multiplication tables until I fell over but I'll never be good at math. He KNOWS he doesn't have it in him. I told him, this is great news---it's clear! I don't need to be confused. Thank you for making it easy for me. Please, just let me go if you don't really want me.<br />
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Of course I'm completely hurt and angry and heartbroken. But I'm also liberated and happy and excited to get laid! And good. And hopefully soon. :D

Actually, I think what he said was refreshingly honest. How many people here deal with spouses that jerk them around? it would be nice if things were different but they're not so at least he's not putting up a fight. Best of luck to you.

I kept asking him just to be honest with me. I'm a big girl, and a tough cookie. I can handle it. The one thing that would make me hate him is if he wasted any more of my time.

Xmas and birthday together in the middle of July. I assume it took you by surprise, that he didn't put up more of a struggle in the end. Just as well you're not disappointed by the outcome. Enjoy yourself.

I am disappointed, of course. But at least I'm not in limbo anymore...

When it happens it happens...just like that. You're just about over the finish line. Enjoy your new freedom and wild abandon!

Chopping off the limb quickly. That's probably a good thing. :)