We just "celebrated" our 11th anniversary and guess what....NO SEX. I'm tired of it. I'm a decent looking guy. I have other ladies flirt with me every now and then. Why is she so cold too me? What did I do. She won't talk, she just shuts down. If it wash't for our kids (we had to go IVF, even though its possible for her to get pregnant), I'd leave her. Its it wrong for me to desperately want to have an affair.