I Live In a Sexless Marriage

So Much For Scented Candles

By: 88ElmiraSt

Written on July 28th, 2012

Just last night I noticed we only needed 13 tormented souls to reach the 30,000 milestone of misery. You have arrived. Welcome.

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By: 88ElmiraSt

Age: 46-50 , Male

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Nodifferent

the estinguished candle, and here I thought it was me lying in bed staring at my friend the ceiling. Here's to the group that none of us want to be in and few admit they are.

Jul 30, 2012
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bigdaddysgirl

The "Scented Candle" title really made me laugh!

My H has always been overly cautious about having a candle going in the bedroom (believe me I am safe w it).

I stopped lighting a candle because I knew he would just blow it out.

Lately I started to light one just for me, just because.

My H should be so worried about our SM as he is the candle.

The flame is out w/ H - talk about symbolism. A very good friend of mine told me he thinks my H is scared of my passionate nature. I guess he’s afraid because he knows I have the potential to really "light" it up. So, I guess all he can do to keep himself safe is to keep blowing my flame out.

Jul 29, 2012
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- 88ElmiraSt
  What a symbol for a SM, an extinguished candle. I am glad to hear you're lighting up again.
  
  Jul 29, 2012
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- bigdaddysgirl
  Thanks to the support of EP friends!!!
  
  Jul 29, 2012
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paxetlux

I read somewhere recently that about 40 million Americans are reckoned to live in sexless marriages. Don't ask me how they estimate these things, I can't imagine there are that many people who are willing to say "Hey, me too!", despite the folks here. As someone else says, just the tip of the iceberg. Just think of it the next time you are walking down the street and an adult passes by you, there are two questions that might cross your mind:

a. Are you married?

b. What are the chances you are not getting any either?

Is it just sad or could it be representative of an opportunity to eventually put things right?

Jul 29, 2012
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- ulae
  Not-so-secret-eventually sign like fake mole on chin?
  
  Aug 1, 2012
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elkclan

scented candles = fire hazard

Jul 29, 2012
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hl42

Tip of the iceberg.

Speak out against it IRL ye suffers!

Jul 29, 2012
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msdamgoode

30020....

Jul 28, 2012
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gonebabygone

well over that number, by now!! just like watching the odometer on one's car....

Jul 28, 2012
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FriendofPromise

Sigh... well, the good news is, word is getting out.

Because there are one hell of a lot more than 30,000 sexless or near sexless marriages out there.

Jul 28, 2012
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bazzar

Some sort of ceremony seems appropriate brother V.

Tread your own path

(if I think of some such ceremony, I'll come back and edit this)

Jul 28, 2012
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- xp42
  Let's see... Crying towels.... Lingerie in a trash can....a single disappointed scented candle...
  
  Jul 28, 2012
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- msdamgoode
  Certianly sounds like my bedroom...
  
  Jul 28, 2012
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- Petrushka
  Well how about we get a keg, start a bonfire and sit around it on pews made from 6x2s and rocks, drink the beer, someone plays 'stairway to heaven' inexpertly on their cheap guitar and we solve the problems of the world before the sun comes up?
  --- that seems to be the right kind of party, dont'cha think?
  
  Jul 29, 2012
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- Changewilldoyougood
  Our hotel for the meetup 2012 has an outdoor firepit. Perhaps we will do exactly this in October in honor and respect for all the kindred souls, here or not, who are hurting as we have.
  
  Jul 30, 2012
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oceansun

BLAH.........

Jul 28, 2012
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