Countdown To The Anniversary

The anniversary is fast approaching and my roommate still wants to celebrate. Agreeing with Baz's advice, I have no problem doing something simple. But if he's planning any of the romantic crap I'll pass. There's nothing to celebrate.

As the date gets closer and closer he is becoming nicer and nicer. The bs level is high in my house right now as my roommate has all of a sudden become quite domesticated. Helping with the kids, cooking, housework. Its astonishing! Lol, not really. He is so predictable. Trying desperately to tug at the heart strings that I have already begun to cut.

Last night it was, "Can I hold you?"

My response, 
a. What kind of question is that are you seriously asking for permission to hold me. Come on dude, REALLY?
b. I no longer have any need for or interest in you holding me
c. **** off

That didn't go over well but it just came out. All things he's heard before and needed to hear again because he's seriously clueless. 

This morning it was, "Stay in bed and get some extra rest. I will take care of the kids." WELL, I'm no fool. Hell yes I stayed in bed, I needed that. 

This afternoon: "Sure dear, you go and have a good time. I'll sit this one out." I hate being called Dear. He knows that. ***. 

Wonder what will come next......

DeeLisa DeeLisa
31-35, F
7 Responses Jul 29, 2012

Remind me again why he is trying to be nice around your anniversary? We have stopped having anniversaries and it feels great. Saves a bunch of time and money, too.

time to leave...

Aww....These peeps know what they're doing.....I think they specialize in this emotional black mail crap.....I find myself getting really peeved reading what some folks do to others..... I have learned from a lot of folks in here that it is hard to just up and leave and in some cases impossible..... But I will be sooo glad to hear when you walk off and find a person who deserves you and shows it.....<br />
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ughhhh....These people who with hold physical love and then dangle it like a carrot when they feel their hold shipping on the other partner.....really tick me off....

As I've told you, my husBro has done the same...he feels my withdrawal and has practically bent himself in half trying to please me....everything except for physical contact of course. I just watch the acrobatics and shake my head. Way too little, way too late.

This might be a good time to get really pro-active.<br />
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Say by finding something that you, and you alone, will be busy with on the dreaded day. Something that is going to have you absent from him.<br />
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Then, whatever bullshit tactic he is about to unveil becomes meaningless.<br />
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Tread your own path.

He is not seriously clueless, he is actually getting the clue, hence the change in behavior.

This change will be very short lived. It's happened many times before.

Wow, you two really need to talk. If there is no chance for intimacy to blossom, why stick around at all?

I have some things that need to be taken care of first.