My Answer To This

Maybe you and the boy could play in front of her and see if it help turn her on a little

SHAD, Have you considered taking her to see a Urologist, just to be sure all is working properly. They can do many things to help.

Very sad. Sorry to hear you are so tortured. Most women are different than men in the way that we need affection and connection to be interested in sex. It sounds like she has that and you have tried so it is hard to understand. Wives need to realize their husbands need sex as men need the physical stimulation to encourage the feelings of love. Even if we aren't truly interested in sec initially, once things get started we usually end up enjoying ourselves and being glad we participated. Sounds like she needs to simply try and get back on the horse. Best of luck to you that things turn them selves around and work out.

Reminds me of the woman George was dating who broke off and discovered she was lesbian. ("Not that there's anything wrong with that" --- Jerry.)

Dysfunctional marriage.



If you've read here at any length at all, you know the rest - lawyer / exit strategy etc.



Tread your own path.

I don't know a better way to put this, but...serves her right. Does she know you've been with the other men, that they've replaced her in your fantasies? I'd be fascinated to know what her response would be. Clearly from a 'sick curiosity standpoint, though...I am not telling you what to do with your relationship

You are a lost soul. Leave this marriage before you completely lose your marbles

I find this interesting. I noticed that, when my wife went in to all out refuser mode, and some time leading up to it, ANY physical contact was very intense and almost intimidating. I found that I needed to be touched by someone, anyone! Can't say it made me gay, BUT it did certainly make my mind wander in any direction that seemed less rejecting.



Note well - cheating with guys is actually worse than cheating with girls. Why? Men who have sex with other men are at a MASSIVELY increased risk for HIV. Get tested, and make sure your partners are tested, etc...

There are undoubtedly occasions when I don't know how to respond to someone else and today, at least, you are it. I don't think it is because I am prudish. At least I hope it is not because I am prudish, but I just don't know where one might pick up the end of a thread and go with it.



You certainly sound very fatalistic about your predicament. Maybe it is the incongruity of your situation that has brought other facets of your personality to the surface that have been subsumed until now. I don't think there is necessarily anything wrong with that but I guess I am just suggesting that her lack of desire for sex with you may not have caused you to be "lost to the other side", if I may put it like that. It may well have always been there, unrecognised by you until now. Many 'experts' believe that it is not possible to be changed in this manner, if I may phrase it that way.



And none of it is necessarily relevant to your primary concern in the first place. It is still your problem with her and the lack of sex with her. Yet, as I said at the start, you seem resigned to the situation, like a rabbit in the headlights waiting to be run over. It is true that sometimes it is necessary to accept some problems can't be fixed. All you can do is to try to move around them, always assuming, of course, that you want to.