Free At Last, Free At Last; Well Almost..........I have finally seen a solicitor and the ball is rolling. There is a bright light at the end of a fairly short tunnel!
It has been a little over a year since I joined ILIASM and in that time things have just moved so quickly. Whilst my H knows that the end is near he has been in denial and tomorrow I tell him about the solicitor and how I want our property settlement to go.
If he is agreeable to my terms, as soon as we sign I am financially an independent entity. My solicitor has earmarked our appointment day as our official separation date and we will be free to divorce in a year. Strangely my plans still involve us living in the same house and for our financial settlement not to take place until mid 2016. This way my son has us both with him until he finishes school and my daughters dont have to move out.
For those who know a little about me, my BF is still married but he has a 5 year plan and he has actually begun his exit strategy. I hope that he doesnt go the way of Conflicted 123 and when push comes to shove just cant make the move; regardless though I am escaping. At least this way I give myself a chance at finding happiness even if I never find someone else who rocks my world.
I have spent many hours thinking that I could stay, choose to be happy with him, make it work but when it's over, it's over and I really believe that in fact it may always have been over - we were just too naive to see it. You cant get back what you in fact never really had.
I am scared but at the same time feel this strange sense of contentment. Being part of ILIASM has been instrumental in my progress; it opened me to a whole new world of possibility and gave me some fabulous advice and insight.
All of you have provided me with a short cut freedom.