I Dont Know Where To Turn, Here's Hoping For Some Advise From Experience.I feel like I have been a victim of bait and switch. My wife and I are relatively young, both 27. We have been married for just over 4 years and have had what I would consider a SM for about 3 and 1/2 years now. We lived together for a year and a half before getting married. For various reasons we decided to not have sex before marrying. In hindsight that was pretty stupid. We did fool around and did everything except intercourse on almost a nightly basis before getting married. Once we actually married I thought we would be setting records for sex.......but it didn't quite work out that way. The first six months weren't bad. It wasn't every night, but I thought it was pretty acceptable. That's when things took a turn for the worse sexually. We then slowed down to once every other month then it just stopped. The last time we had sex was September 18, 2011. Before then the last time was April 9, 2009. I know that I'm not setting a record for longest time without being intimate, but relative to our length of marriage I think it is the beginning of a long hard road. It wouldn't be as bad if she would at least kiss me with a little passion. Kissing has been reduced to a quick peck before she rolls over and faces the other way in bed. I have spoken to her about my aggravation With the situation and how much it hurts me, but to no avail. We don't have kids and we really don't struggle financially, so there are no is nothing holding me back from getting out other than the fact that I love my wife. I enjoy being around her. She is smart, funny and beautiful. She has never been abused or had any major life event to justify this behavior. She did go through a pretty stressful period right before our wedding due to work but that was years ago.
I am extremely new to any kind of group like this but I needed somewhere to turn. I just can't keep it bottled up inside anymore. I just feel like I am going to burst. After reading as many posts as I can possibly read, it would seem that the consensus is that my marriage is not perfect with the exception of sex. The lack of sex or touching or any intimacy at all is just the most noticeable symptom of the problems that we have. At this point I almost don't care what the real problems are, I just want to get the intimacy problem solved. I really don't know what to do or even what my next move is, I just don't want to look back at 80 years old and regret my life.
TisConfusion 26-30, M 8 Responses 0 Aug 5, 2012