Now I'm The Refuser?We have not had sex in 10 months, and have not touched in any way for about 4 months. So the other morning, he leans over and starts rubbing my back. If I remember correctly, this is his version of foreplay. So I should be over the moon, right? I can finally get some!
But the thing is, I just can't get excited by him anymore. I really feel he is just a roommate. I told him I just wasn't into it...that we can't go months without any physical contact, then have sex out of the blue. He says "I know, I'll work on that". That was about a week ago and we haven't touched since.
So now I'm feeling guilty. Did I do the wrong thing? Should I have bit the bullet and went through with it just to try getting things back on track? I tell him it's not normal to go that long without intimacy and then refuse him when he tries? I just don't know how to get those feelings to magically come back after years of nothing. I'm thinking I did not handle this opportunity the right way.