I Live In a Sexless Marriage
Don’t know what is going on here at ILIASM, but I like it!! Two stories just today on how hard it is to leave a relationship. I am jumping on that train before it leaves the station. After I post my story I am joining the 'I am leaving a sexless marriage' group and I am thrilled and giddy!!!!!
The STBX has moved like wild fire on the separation. Kind of funny that I agonized for years and he is looking at the numbers, meeting with an attorney and moving forward. I have had my attorney for a few months and feel she is a good one who will help immensely. We both seem happier already. I have a lot of answers from the attorney but would like to pose a few questions to the veterans.
Hubs want to divorce ‘collaboratively’ which would be fine. Less money, kids come first, staying out of court, etc. But my attorney is not on that list and I feel she is in my corner. I am not going to kill my STBX (I just love typing that!) but I need to protect myself. I need to support myself on a salary that I cannot support myself on right now. He will have to help and I will need as much as I can get fairly. He seems to be fair at this point and I will follow. For the first year I will be doing some swift moving and I will need help to get on my feet.
The house we live in is too big for me to take care of by myself. I have taken care of the lawn pretty much by myself but I am trying to downsize my life after this separation. We have a garden that he loves, and it has been his baby. He also has a workshop in the garage. I want none of this. I have always said I want the new house and place to live, and now I am worried. THIS is a nicer house, but I wonder, with my meager salary (as of now) if I can pay the mortgage. This is where the kids feel most at home. Should I stand my ground to stay here? It is a good economy for a new house but I am not finding the one I ‘love’ in the same zip code or school district. My house will be a step down, for sure. The attorney told me if I plan to leave the house eventually anyway, I should probably move. I also feel as if I move I am abandoning the kids.
I don’t know when we will have this figured out. We haven’t told the kids but I am sure we will be living separately in a few months. It wont happen before the kids start back to school, but the holidays will be a bear.
Guess I should post this in my *new* group but wanted you to know I moving forward and am so thankful to all of you. All who have commented on my stories, encouraged me and all the stories I read. THANK YOU !!!
The STBX has moved like wild fire on the separation. Kind of funny that I agonized for years and he is looking at the numbers, meeting with an attorney and moving forward. I have had my attorney for a few months and feel she is a good one who will help immensely. We both seem happier already. I have a lot of answers from the attorney but would like to pose a few questions to the veterans.
Hubs want to divorce ‘collaboratively’ which would be fine. Less money, kids come first, staying out of court, etc. But my attorney is not on that list and I feel she is in my corner. I am not going to kill my STBX (I just love typing that!) but I need to protect myself. I need to support myself on a salary that I cannot support myself on right now. He will have to help and I will need as much as I can get fairly. He seems to be fair at this point and I will follow. For the first year I will be doing some swift moving and I will need help to get on my feet.
The house we live in is too big for me to take care of by myself. I have taken care of the lawn pretty much by myself but I am trying to downsize my life after this separation. We have a garden that he loves, and it has been his baby. He also has a workshop in the garage. I want none of this. I have always said I want the new house and place to live, and now I am worried. THIS is a nicer house, but I wonder, with my meager salary (as of now) if I can pay the mortgage. This is where the kids feel most at home. Should I stand my ground to stay here? It is a good economy for a new house but I am not finding the one I ‘love’ in the same zip code or school district. My house will be a step down, for sure. The attorney told me if I plan to leave the house eventually anyway, I should probably move. I also feel as if I move I am abandoning the kids.
I don’t know when we will have this figured out. We haven’t told the kids but I am sure we will be living separately in a few months. It wont happen before the kids start back to school, but the holidays will be a bear.
Guess I should post this in my *new* group but wanted you to know I moving forward and am so thankful to all of you. All who have commented on my stories, encouraged me and all the stories I read. THANK YOU !!!
By:
golferel
Age:
41-45
,
Female
