The Difficult ConversationI chose my moment.
'I need to have a conversation with you. Two months ago I told you that we could not go on like this, not talking, not touching, me just looking after the children and sharing the house with you.
In fact two years ago after marriage counselling I told you I wanted a divorce and you said that you would do anything/everything to make things better.
You have done nothing. As far as I am concerned this marriage is now over. We are friends, but there is no married relationship left. There is nothing to try and save.'
What did he say? 'I hear what you say.' He said nothing further.
Then five minutes later he spoke to me about what I am cooking for dinner this evening. All very pleasant and 'normal'. As though the earlier conversation did not take place. Fine.
So as far as I am concerned the above conversation (in fact it was a monologue) makes me free to do as I please. I initially plan to head off down to get legal advice etc. Separation and divorce will be done at my own pace.
He seems happy to ignore everything, as long as I take care of him and the children. Well, that is okay for now, it suits me to do that. But it won't suit me forever.
The marriage is over. I am okay and will move on with my life.