This Shouldn't Be So CommonI've been married 10 years to a wonderful man. He's loving and attentive in every way but one. We have 2 small children and a comfortable life.
We don't have a completely sexless marriage. On average we partake about every month or two--but that can't be normal or healthy. I'm so envious of my girlfriends that complain about their husbands " wanting it all the time".
If I had to foresee a marital issue...this wouldn't have even been on the radar. I've tried to talk to my husband about it, and he tries to assure me that everything is fine. I'm done discussing it because..who wants to have sex with someone that doesn't desire them?
I take good care of myself and stay fit and feel I'm attractive. I get the attention of other men but it doesn't curb the hurt feelings of not being desired by my own husband. What's strange is that my husband is very flirty with me, especially around friends and family. Almost like he at least wants to have the illusion we're swinging from the chandeliers.
I have never cheated on my husband or considered it until recently. I met a man with whom I have a mutual attraction with...he's married also. The thought of hurting my husband makes me feel physically ill. I would never leave my husband, I love him dearly and hope to grow old with him. If I knew I could have an affair and be assured that he would never find out, I have to admit I would. I just don't know if I can risk what I have.
Since I've spent time with the other man I feel alive again, like a woman again. I'm not some sex crazed nyphmo,I just miss what I think should be part of a marriage. I never though I'd be a person considering such a thing.
Is it worth the risk or is almost perfect enough?
Sarah464 41-45, F 20 Responses 1 Aug 8, 2012