I Love My Wife

I have been married to my wife for almost 4 years and during our first of marriage we had sex every day. The last three years we've slowly decreased our sex to once or twice a month. Now, I'm not saying that I don't love my wife, I'm just in an almost sexless marriage.
TheCauterizer TheCauterizer
26-30, M
7 Responses Aug 11, 2012

Dont wait talk to her now and be honest about it. Tell her how it is, and perhaps suggest that if you are going to be roomates she shouldnt expect you to act like a husband in theory.<br />
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Stay Strong & Good Luck

She's probably been feeling the same way and waiting for you to make a move. I say just wait until you are alone and go for it. Im in the same boat and I can't tell you how often i wish he would just grab me and slam me up against a wall and have his way with me.. etc... you get the picture. Life just gets in the way and we don't know how to get back. Someone has to make the first move.

Although I'm new to this site. Your story caught my eye cause my brother went through something similar in his marriage. I asked him if he loved his wife and he say yes. I then asked him if she loves him, and he said she does. So after much thought, I asked him, Do you know if she likes you? He then went on to say that of course she likes me, she loves me. I told him, just because you love someone, doesn't necessarily mean you like them. Think about the moment you both first met. It wasn't love, it was like. And after much time spending with each other, love began to play it's part. <br />
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Perhaps, Mr. TheCauterizer, there's something your wife doesnt like about you or herself. Think about how much at the beginning of your relationship, you liked seeing her and vice versa. Do you still have that thrill in your eyes when you see her and can you see that thrill in her eyes? Just because you think you guys are in a deep hole, doesn't mean you can't get out. The climb may be challenging, but it will be worth it for the both of you. And remember, she can't read your mind. Hoping for the best for you both.

Say something to her about it now!<br />
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Man waiting makes it harder to deal with in the long run.

By posting this, you're posting a marker to yourself. A question.<br />
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Good for you. Keep pondering on that question, and other questions will come to mind. Like what do I want out of my life, my marriage?<br />
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And if you keep with it, and have courage and integrity, you have a shot at achieving some good answers to those questions.

That you love your wife is not in dispute.<br />
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Whether she loves you or not (or not at the level you'd like, or the manner in which you'd like) DOE'S seem to be up for debate.<br />
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Tread your own path.

Give her something to think about. maybe tell her what youd like to do to her. She could be getting bored with the same routine. Or maybe do something nice for her with out expecting sex in return. Try to think of what it was you two did together before the drift. Loosing the fun in life will put a damper on the sex forsure.