So Good To Find Out That I Am Not Alone!
I have been 18 months without sex or any other intimacy. I moved into the spare bedroom about 1 year ago. I thought that I would feel better if I felt like it was my choice, like maybe I was in control of this situation. We have been married for 11 years and honestly the sex became pretty sporadic about 4 years in. I feel I have tried everything. I have not encountered this before in a long term relationship. I will say that this situation is reeking havoc on my self esteem. I have not been able to talk to anyone about this and I was psyched to find this website today. I looked through a few stories and felt a little better. Sometimes I am OK with the situation...I am not interested in anyone else. My husband is a good man, but he has no interest in sex, or figuring out why he has no interest. When I moved out of our bedroom, he barely even commented. I do not believe that we will find any real passion at this time or in the future. So the thing I am pondering is should I just ride out this situation, I am not uncomfortable in my home. Or should I leave, I have a great job and resources so that is not the issue....and when should I leave. I am looking for a sign. We also have one teenage child who is well adjusted and not blind to what is going on. I am interested in hearing from people who had had similar expereinces. Also open to hearing from people on the other side of the coin.