The Truth Can Be Frightening, But Empowering As Well.I am glad I found this site. Over the past few days I have read so many stories and I now feel a bit “uplifted” to realize I am not alone – there are so many others like me who struggle in a sexless marriage devoid of intimacy. I guess misery does indeed love company. My story is long and I won’t bore you with the details. But I can say this…sex IS VERY IMPORTANT and part of a normal, healthy marriage relationship. I am not going to deny this truth to myself anymore! I am tired of the rejection. I am tired of reaching out. I am tired of a relationship without intimacy – a relationship without passion. I will not blame my wife entirely for this failed marriage, but I can say to you all with complete honesty that I have done what I can and I there is nothing left for me to do but to accept the truth. The truth is, she no longer loves me the way a wife should love her husband. She does not care about my feelings. And with acceptance of the truth, I am going to divorce her after 28 years of marriage. Stumbling onto this site has helped me come to this conclusion as I can see so many others out there just like me who are made to feel worthless by their partner’s constant rejection. I am a person of value. I am a person who wants to be deeply intimate with another soul. When I make myself vulnerable – she should cherish it and protect me. I am not perfect. I love my wife, but I’m letting go of her so I can survive and hopefully, someday, find a new relationship that is ba
Thank you all for listening. I have been in counseling for 8 months and it’s been a tremendous help to me. I’ve also confided in my doctor and my pastor…..AND, I consulted with an attorney. I have read many books and have “grown” as a result of this ordeal. I appreciate sex on a level unimaginable to those who get it on a regular basis. I can’t wait to be with a woman again and feel her embrace and know that she loves being with me as much as I love being with her. I no longer will allow myself to feel guilty for taking care of my “needs” alone. One of the real eye-openers for me though was finding this site! I am glad to be able to connect with others now who understand exactly what I am going through. I think I am going to hang out here for awhile.
By-the-way, at one of my counseling sessions I mentioned to my therapist how much "I hate Viagra commercials", so that was the source of my first story posted here on EP. I’m going to read it to her in a couple of weeks and I know she will crack up.