An ImprovementMy wife finally started reading "Sexless Marriage" the book. We have had a lot of discussions, but she is also really trying. I think that she finally got it. Her lovemaking to me actually felt like it should with a hand and bj. She is still working on the vaginismus, but at least she is enthusiastic about my release. I have found that her ******* give her bad headaches so we are trying to work on her meds. This situation is much better the last two weeks. We treat each other with kindness and courtesy in many ways like we were dating. She is trying hard.... and succeeding.... I just have to keep working on being a better husband. It's not perfect, but it is a drastic improvement. Now to the real problem.....I think I have fallen in love with a friend who I have known for six years. We have had many talks about many things including sex (she was in a sexless marriage and finally left) We have never been physically intimate. I have seen this person in almost every possible circumstance on a daily basis and there is nothing that I don't like about her. She is everything that I would want in a wife and lover. I know that it is an emotional affair from my viewpoint. She is a one man woman and has been dating a guy since her divorce, but doesn't want to get serious. It sounds really crass, but if this doesn't work out with my wife, I may lose out on someone who really is a match. I wish I had met this woman 30 years ago. I would have pursued her to the ends of the earth. She has feelings for me, but is a realist that I would not leave my wife. Of course, my wife's health is in decline because she won't exercise and get out of the house. I feel like a really bad person because I would much rather be with this friend, but it would be committing adultery and causing someone I really love to sin. I can't live with that. I should love my wife more, but her attitudes toward
sex for years have made it really difficult.
lonelydrummer 51-55, M 6 Responses 2 Aug 17, 2012