Another One Bites The Dust !I share this not to brag..boast...or celebrate.
I ended my marriage last month.
To the spouses out there who think that with-holding of intimacy is a control tactic, or a power struggle....be forewarned.
You may find yourself sitting in the living room...across from that spouse who you have taken for granted for far too long...and hear those fateful words..."Our marriage is over"
To all those who have had the thought cross your mind....it is not something you wander into lightly.
The month of July was utter hell and a bit of a blur.
And the coming months will not be easy either.
We are discussing the exit....civil is the norm...actually better than it has been.
A 20 yr relationship...the victim of 15 yrs+ of continued shutdown and denial.
Eventually, everyone has their line in the sand.
There was no 'event' for me....just a sad realization that I could no longer live this way.
I don't know how many more comments I will make in this group. I am saddened by how big it has become over the years, but happy that people in the same boat can find others who have sailed this sea.
To those who may ponder my other posts about meeting a wonderful person.....it was not the trigger.
There is much to consider there...and I have chosen to end first...explore second.
But it was that cognition that I could feel and love and be excited in someone elses presence that finally made me decide and concede that my marriage was over.
You cannot decribe or appreciate the magnitude of those few words, until you have lived them.
To any that are interested, comment and I will respond.
I removed my wedding band the night I ended the marriage....it had not been removed before. A simple act can bring such sorrow...because I thought it would never come off.
Anyways...to others..as a learned member is fond of saying...."Tread your own path"
I wish myself well.....I wish all of you well.
Beaverman 41-45, M 25 Responses 8 Aug 21, 2012