Wife's Medical Problems Make It A Challenge

Well here I am, a year after being married. My wife and I started dating 6 years ago, and I love her more than words can describe, but I am in a bit of a whirlwind right now....for the past 2 years, my wife has had a medical condition that makes intimacy painful for her...I feel selfish and I feel like a jerk, but I can't help but want more from life....I will never leave her, but it's such a challenge and I don't know what to do. Sex is a very important part of life...and she tries to keep me happy, but when she is in pain, it tears me up and I can't be enthusiastic about intimacy with her.

So that's my story. Not sure what it contributes or if there is a happy ending here somewhere, but that's where I am.
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26-30, M
3 Responses Aug 29, 2012

Is she in pain all the time? Her hands and her mouth in constant pain?

That's heartbreaking. Curious - is this a forever medical condition or something that could be treated? Will it get worse?

Two years? That sucks.