Well I can say now that I have officially done it and said the words after the Talk, that I want a divorce. She actually took it well the first time, then went for a walk, and when she comes back it didn't go quite as well. She was obviously upset as was I, it is still the hardest thing I've done (and I've served in war overseas), but I am thankful I finally did it, though now I'm in a hotel. I was not nearly strong enough as some of you who have the talk and then can stay in the house that night. We obviously still have some financial issues to work out, as I make more money, and she's never thought about saving before, even though I've talked to her about it repeatedly (she really likes shopping). The only other things are the dogs, since as I said in my previous stories we don't have any kids. Her major issues were that she cant afford a divorce, though I'm not a complete *** (no matter what she thinks now) and I'm going to help her financially to at least get started. I thought it funny her other major issue was a wedding coming up in a couple weeks we were going to, and that she still wanted me to attend with her, I had ob
jections to that and actually stuck to my guns about not going. So I'll update again later, but today did completely suck, I know things can't get worse. I finally told myself I can't just keep thinking about it, it's not fair to me or her. I realized I couldn't wait for the perfect day or time, as there is no good time for this talk. Well that's it for now, until I get depressed later, though honestly the initial feeling is relief. Thanks for the stories and comments here, and don't wait forever to the rest of you who are waiting.