Hopeless.............So, here is my story..........
My husband and I got married 6.5 years ago on the beach in Aruba. It was the most beautiful day of my life~besides the birth of our 4 year old daughter. We have been together for 14 years total. The sex in the beginning was alright. Unfortunatly, the sex has diminished. My husband told me about 2 years ago that he is no longer attracted to me. Granted, I have gained about 45lbs since I have gotton married. We went through invitro to have our daughter over 5.5 years ago. The invitro drugs really took a tole on my body. However, I do try to eat healthy and excercise. It is not as though I am not trying to lose the weight. My body seems to be at a stand still. I have pre-diabetes, which makes it very hard for me to lose the weight. Anyways, I am just so unhappy with our sexless marriage.
It makes me feel less of a woman. I want my husband to find me attractive, but I guess that isn't going to happen. Even when I was "skinny," my husband hardly ever wanted sex. I seriously think that he is using my weight as a cop out of having sex. Well, recently I sent my husband a tex that said, "do you have erectile dysfunction?" he replied back saying, "my erection comes and goes." I took that as a "YES!" he does has ed. So, I was so happy to find some sort of answer, because for all this time, he has been blaming our sex life on my weight.
I made him a urologist appoinment yesterday. I told him last night after eating chinese food that I made him an appointment for him at the urologist. He said, "what kind of doctor is that?" So, i said it is for his ed. He said that he doesn't understand why i think that he has ed. I then just went upstairs to take a bath. I am at my wits end. Maybe, I jumped the gun with his comment about having ed.
Please if anyone has any advice???????? I need help!