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I Live In a Sexless Marriage

She Has Moved Out.

By: javarbm
Written on September 14th, 2012
Today was the agreed upon day that my wife had agreed to move out. I was so concerned that when I got home her car would still be there. Thankfully it was not. She did indeed move out. Another wonderful step forward. I also went to the bankruptcy attorney today and gave him all of our paperwork. He said we could be ready to file by the end of next week. Another step forward. Then shortly after that we can file for our dissolution. I know it will be difficult being the a single dad of 5 kids but it will be so much better and much healthier environment without her. I know that sounds harsh but there have been so many issues and so many concerns with how she treated the kids. The kids will get to see her fairly often but it will be in limited time frames. She has been a much better mom with the limited responsibilities and limited parenting time she has had since I first asked her to leave. Hoping that continues and she continues to go to counseling and become the best mom she can be. Our kids need her to be healthy.

Anyway, very good day and very nice to be taking a few steps forward.
By: javarbm
Age: 36-40 , Male
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    burn1
    burn1

    Sounds like you are on the up swing at least! Hope everything works out for the best.

    Sep 15, 2012
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    liz7107
    liz7107

    i hope u find happiness. I can see that u're really relieved that she left but i hope u can find it in ur heart to forgive her for all the things that she has done. I pray that things be good from now on and u find the patience and to raise 5 kids. I wish u luck.

    Sep 15, 2012
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    inthedark2012
    inthedark2012

    You are to be commended. I pray for all the best for and your children. My prayers are also for their mother that she gets the help she needs to be a good mother to her children.

    Sep 15, 2012
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    morningteatime
    morningteatime

    What a courageous man you are. I applaud your determination and your resolve. Your kids will benefit greatly from your efforts - and so will you.

    I don't want you to get lost in all of this...your needs are important too beyond the kids. But for now, it's time to settle in to the "new normal" with your children and show them what healthy relationships look like.

    Sep 15, 2012
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    ZigMcZag
    ZigMcZag

    Stay strong!!

    Sep 15, 2012
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    dartist
    dartist

    My hat goes off to you for providing a stable life for your children. Positive thoughts and good wishes for you and your children and admiration for doing the right thing as their father. Peace,D

    Sep 15, 2012
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    bazzar
    bazzar

    Your kids are fortunate that there was and is one parent who has put their interests first and taken the real hard call necessary.

    You are setting these kids up with a great example of responsibilty and compassion, thus giving them the best possible lead into their future lives. They may take your example as their model, they might not too, but you are at least providing a functional model for them to consider. In the previous dynamic, no such functional model was demonstratable.

    Tread your own path.

    Sep 14, 2012
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      Fool4Waiting
      Fool4Waiting

      Maybe there WAS one but it sounds like maybe now there are two.

      Sep 15, 2012
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    enna30
    enna30

    You are a brave and good man. Your children will surely benefit from the new situation - and so will you. From now on it is YOU who controls your own life - and that is priceless.

    Sep 14, 2012
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      javarbm
      javarbm

      I do believe that this is the best move for the kids. I have asked myself that every day, wanting to make sure that I was making the best decision for them. Very much looking forward to our new life going forward. Thank you for you kind words.

      Sep 14, 2012
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    Isabellas35
    Isabellas35

    Now you can start rebuilding,wish you all the best going forward.

    Sep 14, 2012
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      javarbm
      javarbm

      Thank you, so ready to start the rebuilding.

      Sep 14, 2012
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      cleat
      cleat

      All the best for your future :)

      Sep 15, 2012
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