Like, Respect And LoveLike, respect, and love. First of all do you like the person that you are in a relationship with? Would you choose this person to be your friend? Someone that you can confide in and totally be yourself with? Do you feel better about who you are after spending time with this person? If not then perhaps it is time to think on what the word "like" truly means.
Respect. Does your partner respect and acknowledge your good qualities? Applaud your accomplishments? Be your cheerleader? Can you come home after a hard day and talk about a disappointment knowing that warm arms will reach out to hold and comfort you? If not then you are diminished by the one who could offer you respect for the efforts made with the best of intents.
Love. What is love? To me it is a combination of like and respect and then love for a partner follows. My husband received my love after I learned to like and respect him for the man he is. This was gradual over a long time as I learned the values of like and respect for myself and what important roles they played in opening myself up to loving him.
A relationship is not a power play. It is never using sex and intimacy as a tool to gain control but an ex
There is and has never been ego at the center of our marriage. What is good for one is good for the whole. Loving one another has always been so easy because our love enhances and never takes away. Every decision is for the good of the marriage and not one individual.
Disagreements, and these have been few, are handled immediately and not left to fester and grow into anything bigger. We both know what is important and healthy in our marriage and we talk about everything. Communication and laughter are key ingredients for us. These stem from like, respect, and love.
A firm foundation is built on like, respect, and love. If one is missing, the foundation becomes shaky. If love comes without like the foundation is shaky. If respect is absent, the foundation will eventually crumble.
Having lived through bad relationships from the past, I now see what was missing. I had to like, respect, and love myself first before I could accept these qualities from my partner and he had to do the same. Once we both attained these, we were ready to build a life together. Peace,D