Update...first Step?

Not only did I have sex with my partner on the weekend - he initiated it (for the first time it seems EVER but sure I am exagarating!) and he was considerate of me too!

Prior to that we had about 2 or 3 days of open communication on the subject and other subjects - my depression - him hating his job etc.

I know this is not a final outcome but just the first step hopefully...
1atlas1 1atlas1
41-45, F
2 Responses Sep 17, 2012

It is indeed a step. Though at this point, you don't really know toward "where". After a few more steps - forward / backward / sideways - where this is heading will start to become clearer.

It would be most unwise, at this point, to assume that this step is necessarily in the direction you'd prefer it to be. But the fact that it IS moving is good.

Tread your own path.

Take things slowly. Don't read too much into it. But do accept and appreciate that he is trying.

It sounds like you both need to make some major life changes to feel happier and more fulfilled. Lots more open, sincere and honest communication is a good way to begin . . . .

Yes - slowly is the plan alright.

The most important thing about his actions and open communication is that yes - he is trying!! That is the difference. I felt before he wasn't even willing to try - to me this is the most important thing that I needed to know - even if it hadn't turned out that we actually got physical - I know now that he does care enough about our relationship. Coz all the 'whys' and 'what fors' don't matter - if at the end of the day he doesn't even want to be in the relationship.

Thank you for your advice - everything you said is spot on!!