Are You Also Just Part Of The Background?so illustrative:
i have been wanting to cut my hair into a shorter style that i know looks good on me for some time. finally went and did it yesterday. i love it. so me, and this is very similar to how my hair was when he and i met.
so my daughter looks at me and says "mommy did you get a really nice haircut? i love it!!!!" with enthusiasm and sincerity.
he walks in, looks at me, and says nothing. but the ex
i've come to expect that.
but, here, in one experience, crystallizes: i feel like a defective piece of furniture when he looks at me.
whatever---it's time to start living for me, and doing what *i* like from here out.