I Live In a Sexless Marriage
so here i am again, another day in the ILIASM life.
last night he picked up our daughter & got home a little later than me. i took advantage of the time to work out.
they get home, she comes downstairs & hangs out with me. he comes downstairs, glass of wine in hand, watches for about 2 minutes, and heads back upstairs.
me & my daughter head back up after i'm finished: time to cook dinner. what's he been doing? laying on the couch, eating junk food (and spilling it all over the couch, the floor, etc.), drinking wine, and watching tv.
did he clean out the filters, leaves, etc. from the pool after the big storms tuesday? no. did he go through his huge pile of mail & take care of that? no.
why?
because....*i* was doing something "fun," for *me,* so--why should he do "work?"
today, he's supposed to take her to 2 classes--thursdays i *always* catch up on stuff around the house and/or work out. guess what? *i* got stuck cleaning all the leaves out of the pool, the filters, etc. because, if i don't, it's going to be dark by the time he gets home, and the pool filter motor, etc., will be damaged when it runs tomorrow, because too much has accumulated.
now...it may seem like a small annoyance, or maybe even a medium one. but, to those reading, this is typical sh!t around here. whenever i *might* have an oppty to do something nice for myself (e.g., work out a little longer, which coincidentally benefits HIM because i'm looking mighty fine these days. or, maybe he just doesn't care how i look. or, maybe he doesn't WANT me to look good. hmmmm.)--HE comes up with something else that absotively posolutely MUST be done, BY ME, instead of me doing what *i* had planned for that time.
add to this, all the times i have gone over to him, softly & sweetly kissed him on the lips since he's come home, been non-confrontational & refused to rise to his provocational comments, absolutley zero response from him, and the steam.is.coming.out.of.my.ears.
i have just spent **90 minutes!!!** cleaning the pool. HIS job. he NEVER helps inside the house. (or he does when we have a party--that's IT. otherwise the dust could accumulate to INCHES before he'd do anything about it---because it's *my* job.)
so thank you for letting me vent here; i will NOT vent to him. i will simply TAKE the time back at some point over the weekend and he can handle himself however he wants while *i* take some "me" time and do something constructive with it. rather than doing *his* work, that he could, and should, easily have taken care of last night instead of laying on his a** watching tv, eating junk food, and having his wine.
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last night he picked up our daughter & got home a little later than me. i took advantage of the time to work out.
they get home, she comes downstairs & hangs out with me. he comes downstairs, glass of wine in hand, watches for about 2 minutes, and heads back upstairs.
me & my daughter head back up after i'm finished: time to cook dinner. what's he been doing? laying on the couch, eating junk food (and spilling it all over the couch, the floor, etc.), drinking wine, and watching tv.
did he clean out the filters, leaves, etc. from the pool after the big storms tuesday? no. did he go through his huge pile of mail & take care of that? no.
why?
because....*i* was doing something "fun," for *me,* so--why should he do "work?"
today, he's supposed to take her to 2 classes--thursdays i *always* catch up on stuff around the house and/or work out. guess what? *i* got stuck cleaning all the leaves out of the pool, the filters, etc. because, if i don't, it's going to be dark by the time he gets home, and the pool filter motor, etc., will be damaged when it runs tomorrow, because too much has accumulated.
now...it may seem like a small annoyance, or maybe even a medium one. but, to those reading, this is typical sh!t around here. whenever i *might* have an oppty to do something nice for myself (e.g., work out a little longer, which coincidentally benefits HIM because i'm looking mighty fine these days. or, maybe he just doesn't care how i look. or, maybe he doesn't WANT me to look good. hmmmm.)--HE comes up with something else that absotively posolutely MUST be done, BY ME, instead of me doing what *i* had planned for that time.
add to this, all the times i have gone over to him, softly & sweetly kissed him on the lips since he's come home, been non-confrontational & refused to rise to his provocational comments, absolutley zero response from him, and the steam.is.coming.out.of.my.ears.
i have just spent **90 minutes!!!** cleaning the pool. HIS job. he NEVER helps inside the house. (or he does when we have a party--that's IT. otherwise the dust could accumulate to INCHES before he'd do anything about it---because it's *my* job.)
so thank you for letting me vent here; i will NOT vent to him. i will simply TAKE the time back at some point over the weekend and he can handle himself however he wants while *i* take some "me" time and do something constructive with it. rather than doing *his* work, that he could, and should, easily have taken care of last night instead of laying on his a** watching tv, eating junk food, and having his wine.
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By:
smithy8015
Age:
46-50
,
Female
