i've been in a sexless marriage for 20 years - i guess you would call my situation unique. i'm a spinal cord injuried man who's paralyzed but my wife is the 1/2 of the sexless marriage. she says she is happy and no sex in the marriage is her choice. even though wheelchair bound i love sex and intimacy. i fathered a child with her and after that she's had no desire. the last 5 years i have a couple sexapades with other women and it was very satisfying but finding a willing partner in my condition is not real easy. i have no regrets getting sex outside the marriage and have even given my wife the green light to do the same if she wants. i love her, she is very attractive and fit and takes good care of herself. it is very frustrating to live with someone you desire and get no intimacy. i will forge on and hope there is still a chance she may change and we could have that special moment i think all marriages should have.