It Is Not Just About YouI left my sexless marriage a year ago, and so it is a year since my divorce is final. And I tell people here at EP, that sadly I lost a lifetime to this sexless marriage. But what people here are unable to grasp in that statement, is that I was not the only one in this relationship that lost a lifetime. So did my spouse.
My spouse settled for very little in his life. He missed out on a fabulous life. He could have had a very loving and caring life, and instead, lived a life alone. He isolated himself from love, laughter, companionship. I never did learn why, he was so determined to live a life of isolation. I honestly have no idea.
Perhaps, if I had been able to understand what he was about, that information would have opened a window to some sort of understanding or awareness of what he was dealing with? It may not have made any difference for the outcome in my marriage, but just perhaps that information, would have helped someone else here in our group, and could have been a saving grace.
And perhaps me pointing out, that you are not the only one in the relationship, isolated from intimacy, you both are, will offer a different way of trying to reach out to your spouse.
You are both cut off. you are not alone in this.