I have only been married for a year with no kids but our problems are already getting old. When we fight it’s never something that he’s mad at me about. Most of the time when we argue it’s about me wanting to gain an understanding or bond. I don’t feel heard in my relationship I feel like I’m a problem rather than an asset. He always wants me to let things go and nothing is ever resolved. I feel trapped because I have to try and change my perception sometimes just to get through the day. When I decide to not say anything because I can’t bear fighting all week he is super happy but while doing so I feel I’m losing myself just to avoid an argument. I want to make things work but we both have strong personalities and breaking old habits is hard and not assuring. I wonder if anyone has taken steps to try and get your message across where you both are heard and understood. Possible? Can we both get what we want? Or is someone always going to have to get the short end of the stick.