Feels Like I'm DrowningHello to everyone. I'm glad to have stumbled upon this group. I know that justbeing able to vent or speak about this will help me since this isn't something I am comfortable talking to anyone about as far as family or my circle of friends.
I have been with my husband for 6 years. Initially, our sex life was frequent even if I had a few of the usual complaints (by "usual" I mean foreplay and keeping things exciting). I would give anything to have those problems now!
Outr issues began with my husband being rx'd Prozac. Like many, he experienced a drastic loss in libido. He was going through custody/visitation issues with his ex and the proceedings took a toll. He alost immediately noticed adverse side effects and stopped taking the medication. I don't think he even finished the first bottle. Extreme paranoia and sleep problems were among the worst, then there was the libido loss which we didn't immediately attribute to the meds.
That was 4 years ago and I now believe the side effects gave way to an overall problem with sexual confidence. Its hard enough (no pun intended), to deal with a lack of desire but when you take away the ability to follow through things get horrible. Premature ***********, erectile dysfunction...catch 22. He got to the point where just knowing we were going to TRY Stressed him out so much it took all pleasure from the experience for both of us. Now? We work opposite shifts and have four children to attend to. The chasm just widens and widens and while I have spoken with him about my feelings and I know he understands, nthing is really changing. If a person coud die from a lack of affection, I feel like I'd be on life support by now. I am depressed and frustrated along with feeling like the last sliver of anything I can label as my "youth" is being wasted.