How Do I Gett Out?We have been married for 21 years. For the last 2 years we have been financially broke. The business failed and altho he got a job, by last November the hours were being cut. In March he was laid off. He got a new job in August. I am a sub for the school district and all my paychecks were automatically deposited into our joint account. Last May I had earned enough in a single check to cover my cell phone bill all summer. He spent it before I could. My last check was very small and I had to use it for food.
For the last 2 years I have had to ask permission before I can access any money in the bank account and he tells me what I can spend. He does not write it in the register and so bounces checks. he does not write the automatic payments for our daughter's instrument either. In June he subscribed to Netflix for their free month and forgot to cancel. He forgot to write that automatic payment down as well. I got blamed for all the bounced checks and unbeknownst to me, he closed our joint account. I found out in October.
I cannot cash a check because my drivers license expired and he won't give me enough to renew it. I barely get any work because since I could not pay my phone bill it was suspended and that is how I got most jobs. we no longer have internet, I am catching a signal from a neighbor right now.
In July I had $30 to buy food for 4 people. August I got $50, but my son came home as well. October I finally got $300 and as my phone was slated to be sent to collection I sent them $100 and spent the rest on food, gas and gave our daughter money for meals when her team went out of town. He did not like what I bought and went out and spent another $80 on junk. (I saw the receipt) Last Friday I got another $100 and spent $65 on food, 10 on the kids and put the rest in my tank. I have now been told I cannot spend money at all, he will buy all groceries because I cannot be trusted.
I tried for so long to make this work, I know he has told stories about me because it is a small town. But I did not feel it was anyone else's business so ignored it. Now, I have no money, the van is in his name and nowhere to go. I cannot get a full time job anywhere as I have no ID. I cannot cash a check because I have no ID. I don't want ot leave my girls here, I don't trust him to take care of them. When he takes them for the day (to my brother in law's) they come home at 8 at night and have not eaten all day.
How do I get out?
frustrated1991 41-45, F 7 Responses 0 Nov 9, 2012