What's A "beautiful Woman"??Nearly all woman are simply beautiful to me. The only turn offs I have are bad hygiene and bad attitudes.
So ladies, please allow me to tell you about men like me. Some of you might now be aware we are out there because we SURELY are not going to act like a creep and TELL you what we are thinking. You would think we are crazy. But we are out there every single day. We are the guys standing in line next to you at McDonalds/Starbucks/Insertanythinghere and we are SO honored to be in the same room with you! And you just don't know it. Its not a case of wanting to jump your bones, its respect and appreciation for your beauty, for your kindness to others, for your smile - even if only for a split second as we bump into each other or try to go down the same isle at the grocery. That smile you flash us makes our day. We remember that smile for the rest of our shopping. That little split-second you smiled at us may have been the most honest and caring smile we had seen in a week and we were thankful for it.
Now - its not a creeper thing. Its a true APPRECIATION. A creeper would follow you around the store - An appreciator thinks of your kindness later in the day while switching tv channels and it makes us feel better about our day.
Men like me notice things. We notice the way you are dressed. We notice your hair. We notice what an awesome mom you are to your children. We notice how lovingly you help someone (your mom/dad/grandparent/neighbor/relative) who has trouble doing something on their own and you help them and talk so kindly and sweet to them. You treat them with respect. Because you are a beautiful woman. We so very much would love to be the person you are going home to. How lucky that guy is - we hope he knows it! And if you are going home alone - we know what a shame that is!!
No I haven't mentioned "looks". Looks, to men like me, are standards set by society and by our "brothers" in our gender who are jerks. They are the loud-mouthed womanizers who wanna get laid. Let me tell you what we think:
- We do not care for the women who clearly do not respect themselves enough to dress like a normal human being. While, being human and male, we do L-O-V-E your bodies, we love them the way God and your life have dictated they will be. We appreciate REAL women. We like bodies who have carried children. We like what you think we wouldn't like. We appreciate what you think may be "wrong" with your bodies. We much prefer your breasts be natural. Just the way they ARE. We listen to you talk about your "boobs sagging" or "not where they are supposed to be" and we dont tell you but in our heads we are SO happy they are just the way they are. There is also NOTHING WRONG with the "baby weight" even if your "baby" is 25!!
We love how you make eye contact. We love the twinkle in your eyes. We love the sound of your voice. We love catching a faint scent of your perfume. Some of us guys actually think MORE about what it would be like to lay behind you and hold you against us and lay in the dark and talk and laugh - than having sex with you. To feel your warmth - to feel your voice in your body against ours - to feel your tummy move when you laugh. We love to get elbowed when we tease or make jokes.
We value KISSING lightly, passionately, deeply, for a long time more than we do "getting some ***" like many of our gender-mates. We might have been friends or coworkers for a thousand years and have never led on, but could die happy just to kiss you one time. Just to hold your face lightly and make eye contact and pull you close and kiss you.
We don't just hold your hand. We feel the warmth of it. The shapes of your fingers. Your fingernails. The rings you have on. And when you reach for our hand - our heart soars. Because you WANT to hold our hand.
All women are beautiful in their own way! And I am a true admirer who never says a thing. Just keeps these things in my head and my heart.