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What's A "beautiful Woman"??

Nearly all woman are simply beautiful to me. The only turn offs I have are bad hygiene and bad attitudes.

So ladies, please allow me to tell you about men like me. Some of you might now be aware we are out there because we SURELY are not going to act like a creep and TELL you what we are thinking. You would think we are crazy. But we are out there every single day. We are the guys standing in line next to you at McDonalds/Starbucks/Insertanythinghere and we are SO honored to be in the same room with you! And you just don't know it. Its not a case of wanting to jump your bones, its respect and appreciation for your beauty, for your kindness to others, for your smile - even if only for a split second as we bump into each other or try to go down the same isle at the grocery. That smile you flash us makes our day. We remember that smile for the rest of our shopping. That little split-second you smiled at us may have been the most honest and caring smile we had seen in a week and we were thankful for it.

Now - its not a creeper thing. Its a true APPRECIATION. A creeper would follow you around the store - An appreciator thinks of your kindness later in the day while switching tv channels and it makes us feel better about our day.

Men like me notice things. We notice the way you are dressed. We notice your hair. We notice what an awesome mom you are to your children. We notice how lovingly you help someone (your mom/dad/grandparent/neighbor/relative) who has trouble doing something on their own and you help them and talk so kindly and sweet to them. You treat them with respect. Because you are a beautiful woman. We so very much would love to be the person you are going home to. How lucky that guy is - we hope he knows it! And if you are going home alone - we know what a shame that is!!

No I haven't mentioned "looks". Looks, to men like me, are standards set by society and by our "brothers" in our gender who are jerks. They are the loud-mouthed womanizers who wanna get laid. Let me tell you what we think:

- We do not care for the women who clearly do not respect themselves enough to dress like a normal human being. While, being human and male, we do L-O-V-E your bodies, we love them the way God and your life have dictated they will be. We appreciate REAL women. We like bodies who have carried children. We like what you think we wouldn't like. We appreciate what you think may be "wrong" with your bodies. We much prefer your breasts be natural. Just the way they ARE. We listen to you talk about your "boobs sagging" or "not where they are supposed to be" and we dont tell you but in our heads we are SO happy they are just the way they are. There is also NOTHING WRONG with the "baby weight" even if your "baby" is 25!!
We love how you make eye contact. We love the twinkle in your eyes. We love the sound of your voice. We love catching a faint scent of your perfume. Some of us guys actually think MORE about what it would be like to lay behind you and hold you against us and lay in the dark and talk and laugh - than having sex with you. To feel your warmth - to feel your voice in your body against ours - to feel your tummy move when you laugh. We love to get elbowed when we tease or make jokes.

We value KISSING lightly, passionately, deeply, for a long time more than we do "getting some ***" like many of our gender-mates. We might have been friends or coworkers for a thousand years and have never led on, but could die happy just to kiss you one time. Just to hold your face lightly and make eye contact and pull you close and kiss you.

We don't just hold your hand. We feel the warmth of it. The shapes of your fingers. Your fingernails. The rings you have on. And when you reach for our hand - our heart soars. Because you WANT to hold our hand.

All women are beautiful in their own way! And I am a true admirer who never says a thing. Just keeps these things in my head and my heart.

Drummer1013 Drummer1013 46-50, M 155 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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Drummer -

I couldn't have said this better myself.

Amen, brother. Amen.

How sweet you are! so sweet to recognize this need woman have to feel appreciated and admired. No matter our size or looks or color or race all woman feel the same way.. We all want admiration and to be validated for our efforts to please you. Thank you so much for posting these beautiful thoughts. You are a real man.


Even though I already smile at everyone..this makes me want smile more.!!

Will you marry me? ;)

I think all of us ladies were thinking the same thing! Kudos to you for saying it! ha!

I want to sincerely thank-you for this post. Yes I am loved. I yearn to touch almost constantly. To lightly rub my hand against his... Even if he tells me, 'Not now honey.' (what does THAT mean?) I wanted to loose the weight. I wanted to buy new flattering clothes. WHY? I want to look sexy; ONLY because I want YOU proud to be seen with me. Still it hurts when you tell me, "Honey stop. It's getting aggravating when you do that!"

Omg straight from the heart.real.I didn't know a man existed like you.ty for your comment.I've been abused for many years and you just gave me hope.ty

Thank you for sharing these ideas and thoughts. It does offer a glimmer of hope that there are still good men out there who are not looking for the perfect size 8.

Thank you for writing this, I really needed this today.

How would we tell you apart from the men that just want to use us, when passing in the grocery store? How do we recognize the real men from the jerks? Is there a clue? A scent you give off? Give us a clue how to recognize you!

I wish i had that answer.... but I do not. My gender has really botched it for my kind. The presumption and preconceived, and rightly so, ideas of who we are if we say anything. It's truly sad.
We are out there. Moderately "handsome" fellows who smile to ourselves when you walk by and thank God for his works of beauty and my working eyes to see you.....

Definitely written from the heart!

lovly article
:)

WOW!

Thank you for making me smile. It's nice to know that men like you are out there :o)

I almost forgot that men like you exist. How wonderful that you are attentive to the details and notice the small stuff in life.

Well said, mate! It's nice to know I'm not the only one out there. (Though I will admit that smoking is a huge turn-off for me.)

This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

Your story brought a huge smile to my face.

You made me smile, thank you!

Wow......This is so beautiful. I am glad you shared this. I wish more men are like this. Men who are like this need to show it more, instead of keeping it inside. Can we clone you please? Whatever woman who is lucky enough to have you, should be very happy.

It's good to know there are good men out there who can treat a woman like a beautiful human being instead of another piece of meat...good bloke!

This is the type of man we mothers wish for our daughters...

Aww this is sweet.

I wish I could meet a man like yourself, and I don't mean in a romantic way only - I would be just happy to have a male friend like you! Most of men these days are **** pigs, energy drinks bingers. Almost considering becoming a lesbian...

I'm sitting in a room that will soon be filled with more people who smell like cigarettes than I would care to mention. Thank you for making it suck a little less :)

This is a bunch of unadulterated shameless patronizing.
First off the beauty standard was set by both males and females together, and women are just as superficial as guys are about looks.
Secondly why not mention all the kind men who look out for their fellow human brothers and sisters on a daily basis? men who do charity, volunteer work or a simple favors expecting nothing in return far outnumber women.


Looks do matter in guys just like how they matter for women, that is just human nature and men are just as likely to be kind and helpful as their female counterparts.

Enough with this feminist propaganda.

Chill out. This is beautifully written.

Cool.

Your wife is lucky...and it is my lost :))
Thank you for sharing this thought. You made my day

I think every woman who read this fell in love with you ;)

wow i so wish more men were like that.

PLUS: We love wet throbbing ******* that chew us up and or swallow us whole.

I think you should start a club and wear something indicating who you are...I would definitely go out of my way to smile to make your day.

lovely

Wow... That is simply amazing :) it seems like you have an appreciation for other human beings

Aww! Well said! <3

nice

All women are a wee bit intoxicating !! What's not to love ??

awww so cute! glad there are guys like you in existence!

That's beautiful.
I never think anyone notices anything I do at at "McDonalds/Starbucks/Insertanythinghere" lol.
Thank you!

can't do a smelly guy either....although after he works out it could be a turn on....however most of the time he has too be clean and if i'm giving hot sex all night the last thing I need is an attitude...

mt ur a troll

Wow that is beautiful thank you. I have felt so unloved and undesired for so long l really thought there was no hope. Thank you for showing me there are decent people out there.

I bet you've found someone to love who loves you... in all these 200 posts...

All the best...
FoP

Thank you.

I knew there were men like you out there all along. My hubby of 34 years never looks at me, I'm the same weight (5'6 124 lbs as when we married), he is 13 years older than me. I longed for love recognition, crumbs from him and never got them. So as I aged (now 61) I dress for the total stranger!!!! I try to be lady like, smile at strangers, show compassion because I know what it feels like to hurt inside so much knowing your hubby thinks you just another "material possession" to him.
Your spot on, and its people like you that make me keep believing in the fact that there are good men out there, probably hurting just as much as us women are. And yes you are right, I've smiled at old men in the grocery store, etc just to have one older man stand in the produce section and talk to me for 45 minutes, a total stranger, yet he started the conservation by complimenting me on my dress. For the short period of time, he reconfirmed that value that I was a woman of worth, and one to be acknowledge as deserving breathing space on this earth. Gee its strange but the more my hubby is so self absorbed, the more I reached out to total strangers and have smiles, affirmation and helpful gestures given back to me. I have copied your post and read it quite often, very touching.

wow sooo loving so sweet... I cant help wonder if someone close to me actually thinks like this....... I hope so...

Lovely story!

Amen.

Wow ! I wish I had found someone like u !

You are clearly a wonderful person. I wish I was dating a guy like you! Hang in there, you are going to find the beautiful wonderful woman you deserve.

A sweet sentiment, but impractical and ineffective in real life scenarios. Women truly believe they want that kind of man, yet they never end up with one. Never even give them a chance.

will you marry me

Yeah, he is right. Kissing, better than sex, or certainly makes the sex a whole lot better!

This post not only made my day, but was truly inspiring as well. More men need to think like you, kind sir. Today, you made me feel beautiful.

I joined this group because of this post alone . Oh my how refreshing it is to read. One day I hope I truly feel like that. Right now I need find strength to fly again .

i so love this post and makes me feel beautiful... :-)

I think I am going to print this and carry it with me....I have never heard these words and it made me feel so much more beautiful!

Very well said, my sentiments as well. The vast majority of both sexes want sharing, respect, and love. To be honored. Like you I treasure those quick smiles in the supermarket, of a momentary connection that is simply open and...nice. I treasure our commonality of each having hopes, dreams, needs, hurts,...all of it but we are here together. And as a man I appreciate the beauty of women. Beauty of soul as much as appearance.

Omg , that was the best thing I 've ever read , u Answered all my questions some times I smile at some one when we bumbed in the road together and I do think about his smile and ask myself what a lucky woman who have him I hope she apreciate him!!! I'm glad that guys thinks this way too thanks again sooooo much...

Lonely heart

I just about cried reading this. I wonder how many woman need to know that or want that kind of connection.

My hair is naturally brown. I once died it red. Not bright but not unnoticeable either. Friends and family made comments. After a week I was standing in the kitchen and I asked my husband if he noticed anyyhing different about me. He said am I supposed too. I looked at him. Tilted my head under the light and said "I died my hair red... do you even look at me at all?"

Thanks for the post. Its nice to think someone likes my smile or a kind word. Or I could close my eyes and pretend that I can enjoy the solace of a man's warm embrace.

Wow, that's all the foreplay I need! Lol...seriously, very nice writing. ;)

You are absolutely spot on. I feel exactly the same way. I wish my wife understood, but I bend over backwards to meet here every need, and in response........... I would be happy for her to be the one I have wished for 37 years, but, alas. Wish I could meet a decent lady in the same situation.......

Wow just amazing..thank you

r u real?... i hope so... if so, thank u!

It's beautiful to see a man who admires the feminine so purely. To read your post today really reminded me of my true value, beyond my external beauty and what I can offer a man sexually. You seem to see thru to the heart, that is very valuable and attractive.

Wow! I want one of you! ; ) Thanks for sharing your awesomeness!

Boy I sure hope this is what my husband thinks like. :) Thank you for sharing!

That was really sweet.....
I can only wish that you were saying these sweet thoughts about me.
If you see a women that you have these feelings for go for it.
Smile back at her,talk to her you may be pleasantly suprised
how receptive she is.
I crave these sweet emotions from a stranger.

:) nice

really nice..

I salute a fellow traveler.....I would consider "A lover of women" to be a fitting inscription on my grave marker......I was blessed to find the object of my lust, passion, and adoration when I was 19........

Such an exquisite blessing, to be gifted with the one who made you whole, and to have her for a lifetime.......And for that one to be capable of returning the feelings that fire you with her own love, lust,and desire for you....

To reach a mature age and be able to replay tens of thousands of touches kiss, and carresses in your mind makes your years truly golden....

To be able to hold her hand and kiss her fingertips, to kiss her lips, and even now spend an evening in the embrace of sweet lovemaking is beyond price....

A lover of women....No higher praise....

the woodchuck

:) this made my day

That was amazing!

How beautiful "Bravo Bravo".... Are you single? Lol

Outstanding!

That was beautifuly written. Its a shame more men dont think like you and also a shame the ones that do dont tell us! :-) x

Wow. Such a lovely posting. Such hearfeltness is desirable. You are a man who appreciates real women. And for that I am grateful. I do not speak for others, but I am certain that each woman who reads this story is smiling and thanks you from the bottom of her heart. For you are a decent, caring, honest, loving men. And they are out there in this world. Not as rare as one would believe. But not common either.
There is a time in a woman's life where she looks at her body and has to accept the fact that life has affected it. My stomach is not flat. But I play sports. And I recognize that I am getting older. But I am more beautiful now then I was in my 20's both physically I believe and certainly emotionally. So I salute you. ThreeDecadesAlone. A real man. kissesssssssssssssssssssssssss....And love. xoxoxo

Thank you for that!! As a woman who has always felt "unbeautiful" her whole life, I could respond to that with a full on essay, but I won't. I'll just wipe my tears and soak in what you have just said. *sigh*

any body who reads this story is going to fall in love with you!

Heh heh. Here's a man who knows how to give the ladies what they want - smoooooth!

This was an amazing short story thank you for making me feel like a woman that's appreciated!!! Your words really touched me...

Wow, I loved this :) I think a lot of women do recognise and appreciate men like you - I do and many men like you have made my day with a simple smile or quick hop in front of me to open a door or a long appreciative gaze - so thank you!

You express yourself beautifully as well, thank you for sharing this with us.

" Now - its not a creeper thing. Its a true APPRECIATION. A creeper would follow you around the store - "

So thats where I have been going wrong! I suppose someone will tell me It's wrong to keep all those women in the room under the stairs next...

Why don't we know this...ok me, why don't I know this? I have been told I have a smile that lights up a room...people also say I'm very pretty, but how do I know when a guy is hitting on me? Just as soon as I think someone is, he introduces me to his girlfriend! It's true that most women think they are overweight, and most men think they're athletically built...lol. Also, the breast thing...I LOVE my breasts, and am proud of how lovely they seem to me, but guys seem to gravitate towards my friend's "surgically enhanced" twins. I would think natural beauty would win out, but what you are saying, doesn't seem to hold water from what I have seen. Thanks for writing this lovely piece.

Omg, you wrote down everything that I have thought, and you probably said it better than I could. i wish thewomen could notice the guys like us

Thank you from a woman who notices men like you... did you know I put the flower in my hair to make men like you smile? Did you know I meet your gaze and make eye contact to thank you for thinking I am beautiful? I do. It is men like you who remind me I am not just signed away to a marriage or the mother of children and a taxi driver of said kids, but that I am still a woman, and someone else still finds me lovely.
Men like you inspire me to believe I am beautiful and to walk confidently down that aisle with the packs of diapers :) Nothing makes my day more when I catch a gaze or a smile or eye contact.... or when a man is bold enough to compliment my flower, or my dress or my smile. Thank you. <3

Please don't keep these things in your head and your heart. Most women need to hear them. It could change your life and someone else's.

I truly loved your story and appreciate the fact that men like you do exist!!! Thank you for sharing....

This totally made me cry I'm a 33 year old married 11 years 1 child and very unappreciated really touched me thank you

I couldn't agree more! My g/f calls me an aficionado of women, I love the company of women, I have more women friends by far. Woman was the most beautiful thing God ever created. I hate injustices of all kinds but especially women and children. I would so much like to find another women to share our lives with as well as a possible child, since we haven't had the privilege of raising our own.

Now you are talking!. That is what I call being a real man. Thank you for making us feel normal, loved, appreciated and pampered! Like my brother once said. Do one good deed for a woman and she will do 10 for you. Smart men like you are the kings every sensible woman would die to spoil. When you love us the way you have described, we give you all.
It is that simple. All we want is respect and we will give it back in multiples.
my i ask a question? your name says it all... why would a mighty king like you sail alone for decades? are yo afraid that you will not meet a lady who will be all you want?
There are so many ladies out there who would fill your life with love as long as you will be royal to them, respect and love them. You deserve to be loved.

Okay, you MUST be a figment of my imagination.

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