So The Therapist Says....During marriage counseling the therapist, my spouse, and I were discussing intimacy and sex. The therapist was talking to my spouse about how some people (me) view intimacy (of all kinds) and actual sex as part of the ex
ANYWAY - I was compelled to share because of someone else sharing about their spouse deciding to have sex with them because the therapist told them to. That's what happened at my house. And I have to say that there is nothing hotter than your wife climbing into bed naked and laying there saying let's go... rolling her eyes. I was mortified. I did NOT take her up on her offer and she told the therapist so in the next meeting. She said "she tried". I laughed - didn't mean to - but I did.
I had to say, and still maintain, that having sex with someone who does NOT want to is akin to forcing it on them and is nearly illegal. PLUS - who the heck WANTS to be intimate with someone who is "sighing" and "checking their watch" ????????????????? So I guess I am celibate at my own cause since I could have taken part in that if I wanted to. But my goodness. I sit here shaking my head in disbelief when I recount that time. In my depression I considered it nearly sarcasm on her part and "rubbing it in".
The therapist said, when I told her of the above, that I should have done it and my spouse would have "learned" to enjoy it.
We don't go to therapy anymore after that.
Anyone else go through that??
ThreeDecadesAlone 46-50, M 12 Responses 3 Nov 15, 2012