We Are Dealing With More Than Just Refusing Partners.There have been a few stories in our group, that have made me decide to post the following.
Most of us here are very aware of the non sexual side of the relationship in the marriage, that we are or were in. And many, despite pleadings and discussions, have gotten no where, and so wanted out of the marriage, and have gotten divorced. And those individuals are now going on with their life.
But there have been a few posts here, that show another side to the .....rest of the story....The divorce became an evil greedy game of grab all, and now not only was the sexless person deprived of a life while married, that person now is being deprived of a way to live normally, after a divorce..
My suggestion, is if you suspect your partner may become like this, before you really decide to fight, get legal advice. Find out the facts. Get all the information you can..At least, that way, you may still end up with the possibility of being bankrupt, but at least, you have the option and time to think about that, and perhaps, choose door number 3, or 4..
This ruthless game of, I want all,coming from the refusing spouse, is a side that is full of vengeance, and will be a formidable problem to deal with. I don't know if that is part of their controlling nature, I just don't know. I was lucky, my divorce did not become that. But I have no idea what type of personality is involved to be that determined to bring so much personal destruction to another. It is extremely destructive, and long lasting and unforgiving. If you have that type of personality in your life, then you need expert legal advice to assist and plan your exit.