Where Did The Magic Go?I've been happily married for 30 years. My wife and I have raised 3 wonderful kids that are all happy and successful. Our love life was great through most of those years but that came to a screeching halt about 10 years ago. It may have had something to do with her father dying, which she struggled with for months. She has never had the passion since. I got online and read all the advice and stories I could in an effort to bring back the magic, but nothing has worked. We have sex an average of once a month now, but it feels more like "mercy sex." She just wants to get it over with as quickly as possible. I'm living in a constant state of frustration, in between the brief releases afforded by going solo. Numerous conversations on the matter have not led to any improvement.
I love my wife dearly, and she loves me too. She has just completely lost her libido. I have no intention of straying, although that fantasy rears itself periodically. I even had a dream recently that I had an affair, with her knowledge, and that she condoned it. I woke up in a cold sweat feeling intense guilt, but never shared the dream with her. There is nothing I would do to make her sad, and there is nothing that I wouldn't do to make her happy. Life goes on.
Thanks for listening.
ThirtyYearsLater 56-60, M 3 Responses 0 Nov 23, 2012