The Laundry? Really? The Laundry?

Broad-stroke history: after all the proactive discussions, requests, actions, tears, doing more and more for H, I slowly stopped, one after another, doing the things for H. that benefit him as a by-product from the maintenance of a household for offspring.  It has helped immensely in maintaining sanity.  The laundry was axed when I moved into the guest bedroom.  So, out of all the things that he could possibly have chosen to say something about, he asks why I have stopped doing his laundry and would I start again.

None of these things were a test to see where he would speak up, as he accused me of.  They just each in turn started to feel pointless, and he didn't seem to care.

But the laundry is where he drew his line.  So telling.
theremustbeawayout theremustbeawayout
51-55
6 Responses Nov 27, 2012

It has been four long years now since my husband abandoned me ...that too right after my child . Fights...discussions ...extra efforts ...favorite foods ...no food ... nothing has moved him so far . Now i have decided to move on . The rejection and accusations are too brutal to handle anymore!!

So the truth is finally revealed. He wants a cleaning lady not a wife.

He is an idiot and one you could do without.

Stay Strong & Good Luck

"I slowly stopped, one after another, doing the things for H. that benefit him as a by-product from the maintenance of a household for offspring." --- That could be my wife speaking, except I was not the arch-refuser in the marriage, she was. But, as ILIASM will teach you, that does not matter. In my case, all that remains full-service is a meal plan. I do laundry, repairs, and equitable cleaning. I never notice when something is switched off.

Your STBX (I hope!) is SO typical of Refusers! You have now inconvenienced HIM - and that is not something he can accept lightly! Sorry to be so light-hearted about this - but I see it as one more compelling reason for you to GO!! {{{hugs}}}

Laundry was a final line in the sand for my marriage too. In a different way though. It was his household chore each day/week. And he stopped doing it, much like he stopped doing ME. I hired a housekeeper for the laundry... Probably should have done the same thing for sex. :)

Love it!!!

This is when we know exactly how much they care about us.
My ex's parting words: "This will be very difficult for me ... financially".

My answer to that would be "Why yes, yes it will be" with a smile...

OMG

When it gets right down to the nitty gritty the financial part we bring to the pairing is what brought many of them and keeps them happily cocooned - safe and sound.
"Sorry to upset your perfect little world...[you cheap *****. You bastard you.]"