Let Me Pose A Question....We know that nothing is certain in life. Whether its staying in a sexless marriage or leaving one, there are consequences to these choices, and their share of pain. So many in this forum have spent years trying to fix our marriages, seeking the 'whys' for our spouses' lack of sexual interest in us, turning ourselves inside out, doing more chores, working out, romance, scented candles, you name it, we've tried it - the whole trick bag of things and events to recapture the ardor.
We've done personal counseling and marriage counseling - even marriage counseling on our own because our spouses just know its really our problem, and so forth. And...we've stayed for years, battling resentment, anger, depression and eroding self confidence. And we've kept trying to rekindle that connection until trying becomes a habit, like a muscle memory response without thought and feeling......
Now here's the thing.....given all of this, how much would we do, could we do, would we dare to attempt...for someone who loves us the way we need to be loved, want to be loved, ache to be loved? Just sit and digest this, think....feel...... Someone who loves your light, your dark - all of you. How much higher would you soar, deeper would you dig and further would you go? Now consider, what the hell are you still doing, dying slowly in your current sexless marriage, starved of intimacy and passion? Is not the chance of living a life of ardor, of passionate sexful love worth the risk?
LaoTzu 41-45, M 28 Responses 35 Nov 29, 2012