My wife and I are both in our mid thirties, have been together for over seven years and have two beautiful little girls. When we first met it was her who initiated most intimacy and who was the more adventurous one. Over the past couple of years things have gradually faded to the point that we are only intimate once a month (if all ten million pieces of the universes puzzle miraculously fall into place). I have in complete frustration and disappointment tried to talk about what has happened to us, and have been given every reason under the sun to try to explain why she has zero libido! sickness and discomfort, having our babies, breast feeding, low energy and tiredness caused by a dozen or so medical issues, stress, lost sensation from surgery.....and the list goes on. She says she loves me and is as attracted to me as when we met, I know she hates her appearance and despite me constantly telling her she is beautiful, sexy and I love her she won't even allow me to see her topless for more than a few seconds. I love her dearly and have no desire to leave or go outside our relationship, but I have needs which are not being satisfied, not by a long shot and I'm running out of patience. I am certain she doesn't want anyone else, she just has no need, want, or desire for any form of intimacy at all any more, she won't kiss me first, sleeps as far from me in bed without falling out, responds with a groan or pulls away if I so much as put my hand on her, and has left me feeling completely unloved undesirable, alone and depressed. My job and life in general are very stressful yet the best free stress releif available isn't there any longer. Has anyone out there had a similar experience, and got any ideas how we can get things back on track?