A Practical Question For The GroupOK - people reading my posts know that progress is being made. That makes me happier than I've been in a long time. Our working together promises to yield long-term rewards. But there is one element that makes me sad.
Since getting back from a trip, my wife has not been a denier - she has been open and enjoys our sexual intimacy. The catch, except for her very indirect hints, I am the one to initiate sex and determine its pace and activity. She professes enjoyment and likes that I always see to her satisfaction, but is otherwise passive. I've discussed this, but she says that it is just who she is, that she expects the man to take the lead.
Am I being selfish to hope that she would be a more active sexual partner? Is this the best it is going to get? Some of my needs are being met, but is this just a matter of optional desires on my part?
I want to keep positive, but even with improvement I feel sad and depressed and don't know what is wrong with me.