Report From Opposite-landHello, and greetings from opposite-land, my new home!
Here in "I live in a ridiculously hot sex-filled relationship" (ILIARHSFR), sex is like air or water: plentiful, necessary, constantly available. From the moment I wake up to the moment I go to sleep, and sometimes even while sleeping, my partner tells me I am the sexiest woman he's ever known. That I'm beautiful, interesting, smart, cute, special, amazing, etc---and then SHOWS me that with his body. Our mutual desire is volcanic, almost a constant eruption.
In ILIARHSFR, pleasure is celebrated, as is generosity, openness, spontaneity, creativity, and expressing your feelings without reservation. Sex is not parceled out according to some secret point system, or withheld as punishment for an unnamed crime, or used as a way to control the other person. It's a way to be MORE connected, to look into each other, not to tune out and just perform some rote physical act where each person is basically alone in the same bed.
Now I understand why people say "making love." It's not just to be romantic or cheesy, it's that the physical ex
I didn't know ILIARHSFR really existed----I thought it was one of those mythical lands Hollywood dreams up, or a marketing fantasy used to sell Valentine's candy and Victoria's Secret. But not only does it exist, it's infinitely better, more exciting, fulfilling, and even deeper than I could have imagined. I have experienced feelings in ILIARHSFR I didn't even know I had in me. Truthfully, it's so intense at moments, it can be scary---like discovering suddenly there is a 4th dimension or that you can read minds. But as a result, I am learning so much about myself. Tapping into primal feelings and needs that have never been elicited until now.
I don't know how long I will get to live here in ILIARHSFR. Maybe this is just a temporary stay and at some point I'll find myself in another new land. But I DO know that I will never, ever find myself back in a SM. Once you see the matrix, you can't go back to believing an artificial world is reality...