Why am I angry that he is making efforts to change now..? After all these years..
It may seem like I am upset if he doesnt want to change or If he does wants to change.
Please help me here. My husband is doing everything to make the changes after I gave him that ultimatum. But instead of feeling elated that my life is going to change, my husband is finally working on trying to have sex with me etc.. I am instead feeling very angry and upset. Why does he want to change now?
Why didnt he change for all these years?
Did he not know that I was hurting all along?
I maybe sounding irrational, but it just doesnt make sense to me.
All these years he didnt care about sex. Now all of a sudden he wants to make all the appointments? All of a sudden he wants to be a sexual person? Just because he knows in his heart that I will follow through with the divorce this time?
So all that mattered was keeping the status quo alive, whether I was dying each day didnt matter.. right?
Am I overreacting? Should I just gracefully accept that he is trying to change, or should I be mad that he is just trying to appear to change in order to buy time and keep me hooked?its like All of a sudden my reality is face to face with me. I tried to hide it, deny it, look at the good things, all that...
Please say something. Any insights will help..
I am about to burst and scream!!