Is It Me?Lately, due to talking with friends that I have made here, I have had to come to the realization that I am at least part of the problem. Maybe a big part of the problem.
My wife has from time to time complained that I am over critical of her and that it damages her self esteem and that is why she doesn't want sex. Easy to brush off on my part as yet just another excuse. I recently had a conversation with a friend on here and she used the very same words to describe the hurt that she felt from her husband for the very same actions that I was prone to. It was very difficult to hear her describe what she considered to be an abusive relationship with the man she loved and how it made her hate and love him at the same time. The sex stopped and the marriage ended.
Maybe in the end it will turn out that I really am just the nice guy that I thought I was and that I am blameless and therefore helpless. I really doubt that I will find that to be the case.
If you love your partner then at least consider the possibility that you are not without the power to make a change within yourself that might benefit both of you.