Is It Just Sex?Why is that the question asked when people hear you are going to through marital problems? I keep talking with people and the most heard question back to me at the end is "Is it just about the sex?" Why is that? I don't know how to answer it anymore, not sure if I ever did know how. It feels greater than any one word in its magnitude.... but how to describe it? I have read good stories on here about comparing this topic to another form of publically accepted abuse.... (does anyone know how to save stories? I can copy and paste, I was just wondering...)
The question immediately makes me feel like, what an ***! You are giving this up because you don't feel sexed enough?? Well, I guess when you say it that way.... The question itself belittles the whole topic... What if people asked, you are leaving just because he hit you once or twice? You're leaving because she has a few drinks every night? This public perception of sex is so mind boggling sometimes! People accept commonly that you should wait for marriage for sex (I know, not everybody does..) , then it doesn't occur to anybody to be outraged when you don't have sex enough when you are married??? Wait for it, wait for it, wait for it, ok now you're dead..... Are people truly that repressed that this makes sense to them?
And why does it bother me that they ask it that way? I can be made fun of on a daily basis, and walk away... I can turn my cheek with the best cheek turners.... but when I am asked this question I feel I have justify my every motive and action for every second of the least 8 years!! Did you everything you could is another one.... well you can always do more can't you?? You can always give more, or you can always take more.... It seems with this situation you have to get comfortable with quitting, all be it for the your own solid reasons.... but it is still quitting...
Usernametbd 36-40, M 18 Responses 2 Dec 10, 2012