"What advice would you give someone that's about to get married?"
I have been subscribing to a FB page called "Marriage Works" to try and get some inspiration and tips. One of last night's posts was something along the lines of "Men: Be sure to give your wife plenty of loving, non-sexual touches daily. It meets her needs and makes her feel more connected. Ladies: Reward this with sexual touches...that meets his basic needs." I posted the comment "I wish" in reference to the fact that sexual contact is supposedly a basic need for a man. Well somehow my comments are showing up on people's newsfeeds, and H saw it. He was PISSED. I am quite sure he thinks I was referring to giving your wife non-sexual touches, and therefore ignoring the little pats and brief handholds he has been doing lately. Well, no...it was the other, but I just can't even discuss it with him. I have been pretty clear about what I need and want lately, and he is certainly aware that there is a problem, at least in my eyes, with our sex life. This morning he said to me I should be careful what I post to FB...I knew immediately what he was referring to and said "Oh? Why's that?" He wouldn't respond. He had posted on his wall last night "Biting my tongue..." and went to bed without saying anything. Then this morning he changed his status to "I wish..." Really? You're offended about my little comment on FB but now you want to fight with me through cryptic little posts yourself? No...what he wants to do is find an excuse to be angry with me and make our marital problems my fault. This is a perfect distract/deflect maneuver, something I have seen from him before. And it's why I will eat my own liver for dinner before I wil attempt to broach the subject with him again. It's pointless.