A little history first. My husband & I have known each other since our teenage years. As life would have it, we went our separate ways, but remained friends & stayed in touch. Over 4 years ago, we got together as a couple. Sex was good. We moved in together & have lived together for most of that time. We get along, never fight. Our sex life was good, but declined some over the years. For the last year, he has turned down my advances so many times, that I am afraid to even try. I love this man, so I thought it was a temporary issue. We got married over 3 months ago. No sex on the wedding night. Not for about 1.5 weeks. Very quick with a big lack of intimacy. Didn't have sex again, until 6 weeks later. Only after writing him a letter about how I felt. Conversations about "feelings" never happen. We haven't had sex in almost 2 months. I feel like just a roommate. He doesn't tell anyone that he is married. The only people that know are people that I have told. He is not the cheating type, so I'm sure that isn't the problem. I truly love him, but my hurt, anger & disappointment are starting to affect how I feel about him. I hate that this is happening.....already! We are in our 50's, so I believe it might be hormonal, but my husband refuses to acknowledge the issue. Cheating is out of the question. Any suggestions or similar marriages?